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How to Help Someone With Depression

Depression, while commonly heard is not completely accepted as a real disorder. People experience lows or sadness from time to time. However, some people experience intensified sadness for longer periods of time. This can go on for months, weeks and even years without any apparent reason. Depression is more than just a low mood. It is a chronic psychological and physical disorder that affects how a person see themselves, how they see the world and how they function in their day to day lives.

While every case is unique and treatments vary, there are universal things you can try to help a friend or a loved one to facilitate their healing and recovery.

Here are 10 ways you can help someone with depression:

  1.      Recognize the symptoms.

Although depression is mostly invisible, there are some symptoms that are quite apparent. People with depression often feel fatigued and have trouble sleeping. They begin to lose interest in activities they once found pleasurable such as hobbies. Isolation soon follows at the same time their thinking and concentrating skills begin to diminish.

Depression isn’t just an occasional feeling of sadness or loneliness that people experience from time to time. Instead, a person with depression will feel like they have sunk into a bottomless, dark pit with no way out a no hope for things to ever change.

 


  1.      Encourage them to get treatment.

While it is important to offer help by listening and being there for them, it is best if they are encouraged to get serious help. Convince them to talk to a healthcare professional be it a doctor, a counselor or a therapist since they are the people qualified enough to handle and offer treatment.

 


  1.      Make them feel loved and accepted

Isolation and despair is a big part of depression. Most of the time, a depressive usually thinks of themselves as undeserving for any kind of affection. With the stigma surrounding depression, it is often unsurprising how most depressive are hesitant to open up about their condition. To remedy this, show them that no matter what happens, they are still loved and accepted. That you are there to give them support and that you will be there every step of the way.

 


  1.      Help them take care of themselves

Depressive people often find it difficult to perform appropriate self care by themselves. These include inability to eat properly, sleeping on a regular schedule, and basic hygienic practices. Assisting them by simply reminding them and being there for them, even in small ways can help them in the long term.

 


  1.      Encourage physical activities

Exercise is a good way to help depressive people. That is why it is highly encouraged for them to leave the house. A simple long walk around the block or to the park, even in companionable silence, is a great way to show support.

 


  1.      Help them break the negative thought patters

Depression is characterized by serious patterns of negative thinking about themselves and the world around them. While it is mostly the therapist’s job to counter and challenge the self-persecutory thoughts through Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, non-therapists can help too. When a depressive person begins to say things such as “Nobody cares for me,” or “I’m useless,” avoid direct confrontation. Instead, challenge them by asking “Why do you think so?” or “What makes you say that?”

Even if logic eludes some depressive, it is encouraged to help them think empirically at the same time talk about their inner demons.

 


  1.      Watch out for signs of hallucinations and delusions

If a depressive person begins to have hallucinations and delusions, it is highly advised that they are brought in for hospitalization. Delusions include feelings of worthlessness and failure, further facilitated by hallucinations that include hearing voices that they are not good enough.

 


  1.      Suicide watch

The most notable feature of depression if the feeling of being stuck in a pit of tar, slowly sinking with no way out. The heavy weight of the anger, sadness, fear, loneliness and confusion coupled with the extremely held belief of worthlessness and despondence is crippling that sometimes, death seems to be the only relief. Suicide is a tragic action that resonates within everyone who knew that person. It can be prevented with knowing what to look for.

It is important to watch signs of suicidal ideation. These include talking about death, or dying. Using phrases such as “when I’m gone.” Increased risky behavior and decreased social contact or turning into drugs and alcohol.

 


  1.      Be patient

It is important to remember to be patient with someone who has depression. It is not their fault and no one ever wants to be depressed. While it may be nice to just “get over it”, it simply just isn’t possible. The neurochemical imbalance simply prevents it that sometimes, only death seems to be the only escape. It takes a special person to handle all the fear, anxiety, loneliness and confusion without condemnation and judgment.

 


  1.  Take care of yourself

It isn’t always easy to help the depressed person get treatment, but it can be done, and helping can make you both feel better. Never forget, fixing a depressive person is not your job. The experience is draining, difficult and toxic. It is important to establish barriers, seek emotional support and assistance from networks and experts, and to take time for yourself.

The best person to help a depressed individual is someone who knows how to step away and give space. Otherwise, the negative energy would drag you down with them.

 

 

Sources:

Depression Symptoms (Major Depressive Disorder) retrieved from: https://psychcentral.com/disorders/depression/depression-symptoms-major-depressive-disorder

 

How to Help Someone with Depression retrieved from: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/depression/helping-a-depressed-person.htm

 

Helping Someone with a Mood Disorder retrieved from: http://www.dbsalliance.org/site/PageServer?pagename=help_friends_family

 

Signs & Symptoms of Suicidal Ideation retrieved from: http://www.valleybehavioral.com/suicidal-ideation/signs-symptoms-causes

 

10 Ways to Help Someone Who’s Depressed retrieved from: https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-ways-to-help-someone-whos-depressed/

 

10 Ways To Help A Friend With Depression While Taking Care Of Yourself retrieved from: https://www.bustle.com/articles/65816-10-ways-to-help-a-friend-with-depression-while-taking-care-of-yourself

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My name is Khole. I mainly focus on Human Relations, Clinical and Abnormal Psychology as well as Psychological Research. My perspective is a combination of Psychodynamic, Humanistic and Gestalt.

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