Sosa Manuel

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  • I agree with what you’re saying. Many of the world’s most successful people probably had or have psychopathic personality disorder. This article was meant to me guide to spot when and IF a psychopath becomes dangerous. It is implied that the psychopath has already become a danger – we’re excluding “good” psychopaths from the discussion here right…[Read more]

  • Thanks! I too will be checking up on the book!

  • Psychopaths are very dangerous individuals, but perhaps the most dangerous thing about them is the fact that they’re hard to spot – until it’s too late. Too many individuals have been drawn in and charmed by a […]

    • Great article! Everything about this article was well done. I liked the way you open this article about how to really spot a psychopath and questions like how do I tell if a psychopath is targeting me or not? You also did a great job at providing appropriate evidence that ultimately back up your facts. On top of that you also opened my eyes to an interesting book that Ill have to check up on. Keep up the good work.

    • Santi replied 1 week ago

      This was a great article and really informative. This is such an important topic to cover, and should definitely be discussed more. Psychopaths aren’t always like the ones you see in movies, there are psychopaths we encounter in daily life as well. All of the information in this article was great, I loved that it explained how to spot a psychopath so people can watch out for the signs. I would be curious if there are specific things you can do when dealing with a psychopath though to keep yourself safe.
      Over all, it was written really well and very intriguing and informative!

    • This article may have been informative but I think the basis of the information was a little unrealistic. The thing about a psychopath is that they operate not to be detected by their prey. If you are being targeted by a psychopath the chances are very low that you’re actually going to realize it until its too late. These are like “third- person” signs. These are signs someone from the outside can see. The way the article is worded makes me feel like these should be “Second-person” signs or signs that “you” can see. A person being targeted by a psychopath will not be able to see these signs, same as the people of Jonestown could not see the signs until it was too late.

    • These traits overlap with what I’ve read to be traits of domestic abusers and malignant narcassists. I believe that the general notion is that a narcassist may not be a psychopath, but a psychopath is narcissistic. It’s a little unfathomable to me how it is that something so volatile as the possession and illusion of power
      control is to dysfunctional behavior.

      You did a great job with explaining each trait. I noticed that you didn’t mention empathy, or behaviors that would be subtle cues of lack of empathy, such as not picking up a yawn.

      Do you believe that not being susceptible to yawning is a useful indicator for possible psychopathy?

    • Covered psychopathic modus operandi that aren’t generally known! I am a true crime conisseur & have read profiler books, familiar with DSM manual etc, and the inclusiveness was a big surprise to me! I was once married to a sociopath who confused me so much , I had to record everything I said! I really liked the emphasis about how they are everywhere!
      What I learned from my ex sociopathic spouse is do not trust those who seem perfect, aka Bundy!
      Nobody has it all !
      I agree with some of the other comments regarding writing errors, however, the content and explanations are so strong that these errors didn’t take away from the worth of the article!

    • JIt happened to me an independent well educated and well traveled woman. I felt very confident, and despite it all I was conned by a very attractive, intelłigegent man who took me foy

    • Time replied 1 week ago

      An interesting read. I liked the clear way the text was written in, though I would have appreciated less of the repetitive mention of John Clarke’s book. It would have been fine enough if you’d mentioned it perhaps twice, and then after that just referred to John Clarke, and continue on with what he wrote. Having the title of the book repeated so often almost made it sound like it was being advertised to us, instead of simply putting it out there as a reference point.

      I would have also liked to read about the neurological differences in a person that would make them stand out and be considered psychopathic, even if it would just be a short paragraph; that way there might be a better understanding of the motives/reasons behind the points mentioned in this article [or perhaps in general merely explain what is psychopathy first].

      Otherwise, a pleasantly short, albeit general, view on how to spot psychopaths.

    • I like the way this article was presented, with the images along with the text. However, psychopaths aren’t all dangerous or bad. Psychopathy is a personality disorder, and there are traits that can actually help people in their lives. Note, “The Good Psychopath’s Guide to Success.” By Andy McNab and Kevin Dutton for information on this.

      • I agree with what you’re saying. Many of the world’s most successful people probably had or have psychopathic personality disorder. This article was meant to me guide to spot when and IF a psychopath becomes dangerous. It is implied that the psychopath has already become a danger – we’re excluding “good” psychopaths from the discussion here right from the get go. But maybe I should have made that clearer.

    • I wonder what country the author of this article is from ? 🙂 I am interested because, depending on where you live, the diagnosis criteria defining a psychopath may really vary ! For example, “american psychopaths” have nothing to do with the french ones. The cultures are very different, so signs do not express themselves in the same way, and the pathologies themselves may not refer to the same things.
      This could explain why I felt confused while reading this article : in my country, we hear about psychopaths in fiction, but they do not seem to be “everywhere”, and we see way more victims from abusive sociopaths than from psychopaths (but maybe there are countries where the two things are considered the same ?)

    • This was an interesting article, and I liked how there were examples of when a psychopath was exhibiting different traits. It might be useful to add possible ways to get away from a psychopath in the workplace.

    • I liked the detail and the examples that were used to illustrate the different signs of a psychopath. They kept me engaged and made things much more relevant. Although, I would suggest that if one main source is going to be used, to support every example or many of the examples given in the article, that it be written in the introduction. In that way, the reference does not need to be repeated in nearly every single paragraph describing a different idea. Additionally, I agree with the commentators that mentioned the distracting nature of the photographs used to increase engagement and emphasize the main idea of the particular signs of psychopathy. One or two striking photos would have been fine, but right now I seem to remember the ominous feeling of the photographs more than the actual sign they were referring to.

    • This article had everything I like in an article! Sources, good resources listed, and detailed examples and descriptions. This could be very, very helpful for some people to help avoid abusive people or relationships. Although I do want to know if it’s possible to be a psychopath and live a completely normal, non abusive life. Just because I see so many articles and so much media describing them as horrible and evil.

  • Is being popular really that important? A lot of people would say yes. It’s not just about stroking one’s ego, it actually makes sense logically to try to be more popular. Popular people in society receive many […]

    • I like the introduction a lot. Many people don’t like to admit they strive for company and popularity, many even made themselves believe they like to be alone when in fact they only have up on trying to be popular since it is, obviously from the article, quite a complicated task. That’s why it is important to educate people on this topic – so they don’t waste a fraction of their lives on running from what they actually are.
      Oh and another sentence caught my attention: “(…) discovering what makes people popular can be just as depressing as the lack of popularity itself.” I understand what the author wanted to say, but I disagree. It can undeniably get a bit frustrating if this is one’s first time coming across this topic but the key is in understanding the mind and owning every “flaw” (in this case, need for approvment and popularity) in it. Just like myth of sisyphus – it can get depressing if you don’t deal with it and own it.

    • This article is as interesting as it is relevant, with the growing use of social media, everyone wants to achieve some percentage of popularity. I like how everything is backed up with studies, and there are links so we can read the study as a whole. Although I do like your writing style, it would have been nice to have a concluding paragraph that just summed everything up? It would be interesting to see this being applied and the results that come from it too! Thanks for this, I may now go and apply some of these traits.

    • I really liked the way this article was written, especially the interpretation of the informations given, and the links to the studies used !
      It would be interesting if future researches could confirm with adults the hypotheses they found true with children.
      Good job to the writer !

    • Psychologically studying popularity is a curious idea, and some of these points surprised me quite a bit. I’d never heard of “relational aggression” so to find out that although normal aggression is frowned up (as is the case with bullying), it’s seen as normal to spread rumors about others. I was also surprised to see that open mindedness is related to best friends and mothers, but not fathers, and I’m now wondering why that is. It’s been said that your parents’ opinions help to form your own, but I guess it may have something to do with the fact that the mother is typically the one spending more time with children, especially in a patriarchal society.
      Overall, a good article, I’d just say to read more closely for typing errors, as I noticed a few while reading. They seemed like the type of error made when typing and editing quickly, so just take your time rereading an article before posting it.

    • Hello! I thought this article has very unique content with an interesting angle. I have a few suggestions that would make this and future articles even better! Firstly, you don’t need to explain to the reader what the article is and isn’t saying- it defeats the purpose of even reading the article! Talking to the reader like they can’t read interrupts the voice of the article and just makes it awkward. Also, don’t be afraid to break up your paragraphs a bit more! As a reader I was quite intimidated by the big blocks of words. Lastly, try reading your article out loud before you publish it and you’ll find that there are quite a few unnecessary words that you can omit without changing the meaning of the piece. Great work!

    • This article was interesting to read. I had never even thought of younger sisters having an impact on how popular you can be. The other things made since, being happy and attractive are the main things that I always associated popular people with. As for relational aggression, I had never even heard of that, but after reading it, it made a lot of since.

    • Hmm I’ve never seen it like that. I’m quite shocked that if one person continuously expresses his opinions over and over again it is more likely to be believed by his peers around him which can benefit his popularity. But I like to believe that each and everyone of these facts all contribute to the ego really. Its almost as if, if one has a better way of controlling his ego development the more he or she is likely to be popular. I even believe after reading this article that ANYONE no matter their physical or mental appearance can indeed become popular. Its all depends on the ego.
      All in all this is a great article to read anywhere.

    • Such an interesting article! The pictures are beautiful and they go so well with the items.
      I guess I’ve never seen popularity as something so complex, I think I always thought it was just about having more friends. I think it is sad that we, as a society, view attractive people as more approachable and even friendlier than less attractive people. I think it shows how we let ourselves be ruled by external appearances instead of really getting to know people. Maybe we encounter someone who is popular, charismatic and attractive but they became popular by being aggressive and manipulating others. Despite this I think that we all crave popularity in one way or another, as it makes us feel loved, validated and less alone so I understand, to some extent, why some people would get to such extreme measures in order to be popular, it can really do wonders for a person’s self-esteem.

    • Popularity is a very complex issue and you broke it down into a very well written, well displayed article. Your diction was educational yet easily understandable. I appreciate how you used studies from a myriad of decades, as well as using studies that show differing age groups (and adding the links to such)- this helps solidify the validity of each point. Many of your points I can relate to on a personal level, and I really like how you displayed both arguments on relational aggression. This was a very interesting read, and an insightful evaluation of modern society. I hope to read more of your works in the future.

    • This article seemed redundant in an effort to state what many people already knew. It was an informational article but the way I see it there was nothing groundbreaking said in this article. I would’ve liked to see something more low-key in an effort to really delve into popularity. It was a good read but left me wanting more.

    • I thought this article would have information that is not already known. All of these things are true but not hard to get. i wish it went more in detail. but on the other hand, i liked the pictures and it was a good read. Even though i didn’t learn anything new from it.

  • Psychologists are discovering more and more about human attraction every day. These facts may surprise you, disgust you, or even help you when you try your hand at flirting. Mating and courtship rituals may seem […]

    • This article is interesting. I would be curious to see if and how the chemical scents are related in same sex couples.

    • Alice replied 3 weeks ago

      Reading this, I was refusing to think that humans are this predisposed to what they are attracted to because of their DNA and social background and at the same time I was thinking: “yup, that sounds about right”.
      Was was wondering how some of these points were relating to same sex couples? For example how a woman’s cycle affects her attraction to other women? Would she like a woman with “manlier” facial features better? Or is there a difference because there is no procreation involved?
      And something about the cheating confused me. If you settle for somewone who is less attractive than you, then there is still someone more attractive than the other in the relationship which would lead, by that logic, to an endless cycle of cheating…right? So… this cannot be the only reason why people cheat, this factor has to be combined with something else.. right? As I said I’m confused.

    • Very informative! I learned a lot from your article….
      I did not know that women are more likely to be attracted to intelligent while it being the contrary for men. This explains so much… my current boyfriend has dated many beautiful women in the past who did not really hold much interest in educational or academic areas (not trying to imply that they were dumb — but according to him they were kinda bimbo..) yet being intelligent and being knowledgeable are two traits that I have always desired in a man. Very interesting!

    • Janet replied 3 weeks ago

      Interesting article. I’m not entirely convinced though. This is most likely due to the sensitive subject, but perhaps we humans are not different as it seems to be. I was wondering if there is a reason for why these qualities are important for men and women’s partners to have. Is it beyond our understanding? Also, since women value intelligence , is that why there are women attracted to older men? I’m just curious because it is known that women are more intelligent than men. This was a good read. Thank you.

    • Nice article! Thought provoking too. However, with all the labels on gender and preferences, it would be more interesting to see how these things apply. Do they apply to non-heteronormative folks? Does this affect their behavior?
      Anyway, awesome article. It’s really useful in understanding why some things are and how one should react to it. Good job!

    • I really enjoyed reading this article and learning all these interesting facts. I like how it takes some stereotypes or myths and actually explains them with scientific proof like tests, statistics or experiments. It is very intriguing to see what a big roll attraction actually plays in our day to day lives from who we choose as a partner, to why our relationship might fail. Thank you!

    • This is quite the informative article! The references to data are nice and appreciated, they back up these facts and give credibility, distancing this from a pure opinion piece. A little expansion on some of the facts would help in understanding and frame them. Specific examples in the first one about sound and smell would have given the reader more to ponder and contextualize the research date, albeit it’s an interesting fact in itself. Including more information in the intelligence fact would add understanding to it, like why women value intelligence and men looks, and what it might mean for the outliers who verge from the study’s findings. All in all, it was a nice, fun, and approachable piece!

    • Attraction is such a weird thing when you think about it. You can get attracted to a lot of people who have nothing in common, and be equally attracted. Are chemicals in our brain really responsible for that? And I was wondering was it always like this? Have people always looked for the same qualities? If so that would mean that attraction is predetermined, and love would be just a word to describe this phenomenon. And honestly that makes me kind of sad. Also apart from the article, what’s up with these psychedelic pictures? I would understand if this was a topic about drugs, it just doesn’t make much sense to me. Maybe you wanted to refer that love is a drug? 🙂

    • This article is interesting to see. Thinking about it, I always wondered why most of the Black and Latin American men in my community were dating and married to women that had grandiose hips ratio but lacking in the intelligence and critical thinking areas. Additionally, the men are also prone to higher risks of anxiety and depression from what I have seen. I guess I must be higher than a man of average because I tend to attract the higher intelligence women on a normal basis.

    • A very intriguing article with quirky facts!
      Although I do have one query.
      When types of attraction and wrong kinds of attraction was mentioned, I was wondering about attraction to one person when already in another satisfying relationship. I am not intending cheating here, I am talking about keeping the other partner completely aware of your attraction to the third person. This does not mean that the love or attraction has faded between the first partner, but wanting to have both. I have seen situations where this seems acceptable and was wondering how the l”aws of attraction” worked here.

    • A very interesting article ! The smell abilities are incredible and I wish I knew a bit more about that.
      I wonder if some elements like the beard thing are really biological or if they come more from “trend” ? It would be interesting to see the same studies conducted in the future to check that !

    • Interesting! Thanks for sharing.
      How about women? You wrote about the beard, but what in women is attractive to men?

    • Very interesting facts this article mentioned, however, there are a few points it provided that needed more elaboration. For instance, sound and smell. Smell is a very strong aspect that influences our behavior subconsciously and consciously. But how exactly? The article brought it up but there was no explanation as to how exactly does natural scent or even aroma from fragrances manipulates or attracts a person. Another point was the section explaining why pedophiles exist. I think I might understand why you decided to add that fact in order to establish your argument, but what is its purpose exactly? How is that piece of information supposed to affect the readers understanding of attraction?

    • Renee replied 2 weeks ago

      Very interesting article. There were a lot of different ideas going on here. The only flaw I found as a reader was the order of the facts. I started trying to read ahead when one didn’t interest me as much as the colorful picture below. I think adding a numerical notation by each fact would help readers stay on track. Ordering them in a logical manner would help as well, but these facts vary in their topics so that might be more difficult. Overall, excellent use of sources and information!

  • Interesting question. I suppose it’s hard because Introverts don’t tend to give much away. You might be able to ask other people if your introverted friend is acting like that all the time, or just with you. Just a thought.

  • You could just email the URL? Glad you liked it!

  • Yeah it was kind of awkward. I did that because if you put the keyword in the first word of the heading, it works better for search engine optimization.

  • Extroverts are a lot more complicated than you think. They’re total rock stars in certain situations, but there are many instances where they fall flat on their faces. Beneath that charismatic, smiling, boisterous […]

    • “No type has it easy” as article notes.
      I am guilty, as an introvert, of misunderstanding the inability of others to be alone, and clumsiness.
      The article discusses both of these as a weakness of introverts. In this light, how can I judge this difficulty because it is one of my strengths?
      This article is a great example of why, its important to understand, and allow extroverts differences, as much as we want our introversion accepted.

    • This definitely had a great balance of strengths and weaknesses, and even being a self proclaimed antisocial introvert, I could relate to pretty much all of the strengths. But, as you said, no one is 100% extroverted ot 100% introverted, I never placed myself ANYWHERE on the extroverted spectrum. Where do you think you land?

    • As an introvert, I often forget about extroverts and the issues they face. Dealing with boredom and knowing when to stop talking are skills that I perceived as basic and growing up I wondered why kids in my class had this problem. The article did enlighten me, however, I still believe that introverts have the short end of the stick, contrary to what the article states. Our society is suited for extroverts and while we both have our strengths and weaknesses, extroverts’ strengths and introverts’ weaknesses are more pronounced through day-to-day life.

  • I think we can all agree that we don’t want to piss introverts off – that’s the easy part. The challenge is actually knowing when you’ve pissed an introvert off! As many of you probably know from experience, […]

    • I am an introvert and this article says it all. When I get mad at someone or something I always want to be alone and tend to cut myself away from people. I feel better in my own bubble rather than to be with a lot of people that will just cause me frustrations. I am fond of the one-word answers, (^^) the less I speak the better so no follow-up questions will be fired at me. And it’s true I want conversation to be over asap. I also interact better with pets than with actual people.
      I do hope that this will help with the awareness with regards to how us, introverts, react when mad. We are never loud. We attack silently-ish.

    • This was a really interesting article! And, me, being an introvert, could relate to pretty much all of it. I think one thing you could add next time, or explore further, would be how to make an introvert STOP being mad at you.

    • I wasn’t really surprising to me seeing how I could relate to a bunch of these points made. Being an introvert myself, I’m aware of my own habits and tendencies and find it important to inform those close to me of them in hopes that they can read my body language in the future. Overall a very relatable article.

      One thing I didn’t really enjoy was how each section was titled ‘The Introvert…’ which made it seem like some other superior group of people/scientist were studying our behavior as if we were weird creatures. That kind of phrasing can make one feel isolated when in reality introverts are just people aren’t they?

      • Yeah it was kind of awkward. I did that because if you put the keyword in the first word of the heading, it works better for search engine optimization.

    • Very relatable, as an introvert I related to most things you had listed in the article. Especially the part you mentioned about us introverts diving into our work when upset with someone. I laughed out loud because it was just too relatable, and I felt like was being called out (not in a bad way). I like how the common theme of each section was about introverts avoiding conflict. Everything introverts do when upset with someone, is ultimately based upon avoiding as much human interaction as possible. You highlighted that very well in this article. Great job!

    • As I was reading this article I realized I might be a full time pissed introvert haha. It explained a lot, really. Introverts are more easily over-stimulated and I guess there are pretty good chances of going through frustration more often as an introvert than as an extrovert, so this kind of thorough explanation really helps others truly see and understand what is really going on with their angry introverted peers and how to pick on the signs.Thank you for the great piece of writing!

    • I like to think that i’m a introvert because i genuinely don’t like humans. I mean it depends on the moods and this post did accurately described how I coop up with my life.

    • As an introvert, which seems to be a common theme on this comment section, I really resonated with the points in the article, especially numbers three through five. Introverts are careful to not show their true colors all the time because they do not like to let people past the barriers they constructed. As a breed of people, introverts seem to value their independence, emotionally or otherwise. I think it is crucial to become aware of these signs especially if one spends a lot of time with introverts. This will help people recognize potential problems in their relationships with introverts. I think it is important to also develop, in light of these signs, ways to try to connect with introverts. What would be the best way for people to talk to introverts about what is bothering them since they value their isolation so much? Also, how can you show an introvert that you care, when they push you away?

    • The introvert and extrovert have some of the same signs when each is pissed off, according to each article on this site.
      However, unusual points such as, “paying more attention to your animals then you” really stand out.
      The article is useful for BOTH introverts and extroverts. The goal is communication, and this list can help us read that infernal “silent language” without having to figure out what type a person is to begin with!

    • As an introvert, I delight both in the informative and cohesive aspects as well as the emphatic aspect of this article. In fact, the use of well-written point-by-point subtopics and credible illustrations make comprehension simple for the reader. Incidentally, if the reader of this article is an introvert, he or she is probably will feel some familiarity and may also be relieved at the thought of having their questions about the scientific nature of their unique form of anger answered. As for those readers who are extroverts, they might also be intrigued by the introversion typical behavior, particularly in terms of avoidance and amelioration.

    • Being an introvert myself, I can definetly recognize most of these signs. I think this article did a great job at giving a window for people who do not understand introverts as easily. My only question is, how can one differentiate between when an introvert is upset at a specific person in contrast to a particular situation or another person. The signs in my opinion are similar, but where is that line drawn and how can we point out that difference. Other than that I really enjoyed reading this!

      • Interesting question. I suppose it’s hard because Introverts don’t tend to give much away. You might be able to ask other people if your introverted friend is acting like that all the time, or just with you. Just a thought.

    • I definitely agree with this, especially the point about blowing up about nothing. I’ve really gotten into the habit of bottling up my emotions, which annoys my mom to no end, and then I always end up getting upset for the dumbest reasons because I simply can’t keep it in anymore. As for the animals, I actually tend to be a bit more drawn to animals anyways, so I wouldn’t say for me that’s a sign of being pissed off. Also, not answering the phone isn’t necessarily a sign I’m angry for me since I have anxiety about talking on the phone with most people, especially if it’s a number I don’t recognize. Otherwise, I definitely agree with these points.
      Other than that, I think some of the photos in the article are distracting, especially since many of them didn’t seem to relate to the point being made. If pictures are going to be used, make sure that they relate to the article and the points that they’re paired with.

    • Wow I looked at this article and felt like you were writing about me. As an introvert, being alone is when I’m strongest and when I can deal with my emotional issues with a sound mind. Honestly, I do most of these things whether I’m angry or not so it can very difficult for others around me to figure out if I’m pissed at them or if I’m just being regular Me, but I do know that whenever I’m angry at someone I become very silent whenever they’re around and avoid eye contact with them so they don’t try to start talking to me (which doesn’t really work often). The first paragraph, seemed a little choppy without fluid transitions from one sentence to another, so I’d work on that but the article as a whole was very relatable and brought a smile to my face.

  • Good point. There are tons of things the community could do to help these people and I guess I wrote the article from more of a “self-help” perspective.

  • This is a great point. We like to view narcissists as evil but often they’re just really fragile people.

  • Hi,

    I didn’t poll anyone, but I researched the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and found that a lot of the symptoms were due to insecurities and fears, such as the need to feel important, inflated reactions to being insulted, inability to feel gratitude, etc. So I guess some of these points were deduced rather than getting them…[Read more]

  • Narcissists like to pretend that they’re all-powerful, all-knowing beings that can never be harmed. But regardless of how they act, there are actually quite a few things that strike fear deep into their […]

    • Alice replied 1 month ago

      I read this article partly because I wanted to know in a more detailed way what the news are talikng about when they are referring to someone as a narcissist.
      I was reminded that this is an actual disorder with serious implications for the person and people close to them. In my social circles “being narcissistic” is oft used synonymously with “being vain” or “being selfish”, when it is so much more than just that.
      Even though the above mentioned fears can to a certain extend be obeserved in every person, they seem to inform the actions of a narcissist in a significant way.

      • This is a great point. We like to view narcissists as evil but often they’re just really fragile people.

    • I find it so interesting how self esteem plays such a key role in our lives. While sometimes, people with low self esteem can see themselves as worthless, and it can open them up to being depressed, others can become narcissists, and I’ve always wondered what exactly the tipping point is in deciding how this low self esteem affects someone. If it is based on one’s personality, genetics, home environment, friends, or any number of other factors.

    • Mary replied 1 month ago

      I really enjoyed this article. Not only because of the insight on narcissism, which is something that is generally simply looked down upon rather than explored to the fullest, but because it really made me think, and wonder, if I know any narcissists. I’m curious about where/how you got this information. Did you poll people? Analyze the personalities of known historical narcissists? Also, another topic you may want to explore is sociopathy, since it and narcissism are closely tied together.

      • Hi,

        I didn’t poll anyone, but I researched the symptoms of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and found that a lot of the symptoms were due to insecurities and fears, such as the need to feel important, inflated reactions to being insulted, inability to feel gratitude, etc. So I guess some of these points were deduced rather than getting them from a first hand source.

        • Hi. It is my understanding that any source we read as a writer, even if we do not use direct ideas, need to be cited or its considered plagiarism. Online writing is notorious for not giving credit.
          Most good writing is “deduced”, but that doesn’t mean we don’t give credit to the original material we deduced from.
          Fyi, for a help. Not a criticism. Its important if you want to be taken as a seriously as a writer, I think.🐱

    • This is my first time to read an article that gave so much meaningful insights about narcissism. It not only talks about narcissism as it is, but also sheds some light on what causes it — which is mostly fear. Fear is such an interesting topic as it is an interesting feeling. It is a normal response of the body to certain situations yet a lot of differently mixed emotions can stem from it. This article helped me learn more about fear itself and the behaviors (in this case, a disorder) that it can entail.

    • You could just email the URL? Glad you liked it!

    • Thanks!

    • Great article, it was nice to get a little glimpse into the mind of a narcissist. It seems like I’ve ran into a few narcissist in my day, or maybe I’ve just had to deal with some extremely selfish people. People who are true narcissist seem to have a extreme fear of being seen as weak (obviously), my point being that fear drives us to act out in all kinds of crazy ways. I think narcissist are always in fight or flight mode, they need to be met with a little extra compassion and understanding. With the people I’ve met that had a lot of narcissistic qualities, I felt like they were all trying their hardest to be the best person they could, but they still had that constant fear of being seen as a lesser human being.

    • This is a great article. I avoid narcissists at all costs when I see them now, I just think they need a check and they don’t deserve attention. Also, I think it shows that many people may not also be full blown narcissists but have some qualities in themselves that need to be worked on. I personally used to suffer from a bit of narcissism and as a result was pretty much cast out of my social group to re-evaluate myself. But I also feel this was my choice too and due to being over empathetic and just a lack in similar interests. I am really grateful now for the opportunity to have re-evaluated myself, it was like a check from God just telling me I needed to humble myself and really let go of certain aspects of my life, people included. And I’m forever learning and growing.
      I think it’s important for us to note that we are not perfect and there’s always someway we can improve our character.

    • The force of this article is rooted in its effective written manner and informative content. In fact, the point-by-point sub aspects are written as to get to the main point all while delighting the reader with pertinent illustrations. Additionally, this article is interesting both for narcissists and non-narcissists alike. In the case of the former, they will without a doubt recognize themselves in some of these signs and perhaps adjust their behavior to a situation. As mentioned previously, it is interesting for non-narcissists given that they will take in new information about this character type, information that is probably crucial in social relations.

    • This articles contains a lot of good points and from my experiences from my narcissistic sister, mostly explains about it. From the insults my sister doesn’t take them lightly (and you can understand why too). As a sibling I always called out about her lies (about food,who did what, about what she did vs what she actually did) she said that I lied but I didn’t. Although, I didn’t have the evidence back then. Overall, this article gave me more insights and info about narcissism.

    • This article is really interesting. I’ve heard of narcisstic personality disorder, and studied it briefly, but I didn’t realize just how close related it seems to be to antisocial personality disorder/psychopathy. It makes me wonder about the incidence of the two together. I also couldn’t help but think of Ted Bundy in this, since he’s given as a well known case of narcissism, and I can definitely see how these things apply to him.

    • A neat article and definitely a gripping one, too.
      But what I don’t understand is treating narcissism like it’s a terrible disease.
      Sure, narcissists are very difficult people, but alas, they are still human.
      Sympathizing would’ve been something interesting to read, or some other point of view.

      Nicely done.

    • Hi,

      Really good article; however i feel death seems to be a bit questionable in relation to narcissism. I guess i have the idea that a narcissist wouldn’t fear death because he/she believes they are meant to be alive in the grand scheme of things. Also, at what point do you differentiate being self centered and being truly narcissistic; or are they synonymous? Anyhow, very interesting read; definitely puts things in perspective for someone who is a bit selfish with himself at times.

      Thanks!

    • As a narcissist myself this is all actually more or less true

  • Empath overwhelm is something that many of us have experienced in the past, even if we’re not aware of what exactly it is. It can flood us with negative emotions, causing incredible amounts of stress and anguish, […]

    • Good point. There are tons of things the community could do to help these people and I guess I wrote the article from more of a “self-help” perspective.

    • The definition here of empath, while rather parascientific, seems to align closely with a Highly Sensitive Person, which is somewhat more scientific. Also, the relation between empathy and depression/anxiety is something that should perhaps be explored more, as many highly empathetic or highly sensitive people are prone to such symptoms.

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